First of all,
congratulations! If you’re reading this, it means you have managed to not delay
the inevitable. It means you have stood up for something. You took a stand and
said ‘Enough is enough!’ And God knows it wasn’t easy. Heck, it’s
probably one of the hardest things you have had to do.
I’m here to tell you
that the hardest part – breaking up – is over, so you can breathe a little. But
it doesn’t get easier right away. In fact, the first week will probably be
tough on you. So I’ve put together a guide to help you get through the first 7
days after your break-up.
Monday: The Morning After
You wake up and you’re about to check your phone for any
messages from Him. As you reach for your phone, you suddenly remember you broke
up with him last night! Was it a dream, you think to yourself? No, you recall
the conversation and remember you definitely broke up. It seemed like the right
thing to do at that moment, but why do you feel like shit now?
It’s normal to have doubts the next day after a break-up. After
a night’s sleep, you wake up and all that anger is gone. All that’s left is a
question mark, wondering if you did the right thing. Here’s where you must
remind yourself of the reason you broke up with him in the first place. If it
wasn’t so bad, it wouldn’t have pushed you to break up, right? So keep that
thought with you and don’t let it slip away. You’re going to need it to get
through the week.
Tuesday: The Realization
Yesterday you were still shocked and likely to be in denial. You
made it through the day because you managed to shut out all your thoughts &
emotions.
But today is when it will hit you. You’ll get through the day
with a trance-like state. Everything is hazy and blurry, and you don’t feel
like doing anything. You might even be tempted to call in sick and stay in bed.
Do that, if you want. It’s okay to wallow and cry. You won’t feel like talking
to anyone yet. Which is okay too.
Today is a good day to get rid of things that will remind you of
Him. Photos. Stuffed animals. Cards. Flowers. Anything that makes you think of
Him. If you can’t bear to throw them out yet, that’s fine. Stuff them in a box
or keep them hidden somewhere.
Wednesday: The Temptation
After two days of not talking to Him, today you will most
definitely feel like calling Him.
Now, before you do that. Take a minute to think about what you
will achieve by calling him. You will tell him you miss him, he’ll say he
misses you too. And then what? He will talk you into reconsidering your
decision, which will leave you more confused than ever. Play that scenario in
your head, and you should be able to get rid of the urge to call him.
If that doesn’t work and you’re still tempted to call him, my
remedy would be to revert to anger. Okay, so anger is not the healthiest
emotion in the world, but for this purpose, anger is recommended. Plus, it’s
healthier to be angry, than to be in an unhealthy relationship, isn’t it?
Its midweek, and you only have a few more days to get through
the worst week of your life. Take a deep breath. You will be just fine.
Thursday: The Depression
Today, all of a sudden, you may feel extremely sad. You have
gone through almost a whole week and there’s no one to share it with. Life is
boring and depressing and you just don’t want to go on alone anymore.
Well, guess what, you’re NOT alone! You have family and friends
who love you and care for you. Give them a call. Go out for dinner. Talk to
them. I promise you will feel like a weight has been lifted.
Friday: The Reflection
You’ll be glad to know that today you’ll feel a whole lot
better, because it’s Friday! You will feel a bit nervous about spending a
Friday night without Him, but also a little excited to be spending the night
YOUR way.
I wouldn’t recommend going out drinking as yet, because getting
drunk could probably lead you to calling Him, or hooking up with another guy.
And both of these scenarios won’t end well during a break-up.
So, why not have a night-in instead. Watch a movie or read a
book. Order any take-in you’ve been craving. It’s going to be a relaxing
peaceful night, just you & your couch.
Your thoughts will go back to Him from time to time, but you
won’t feel sad anymore. You won’t feel angry anymore too. You will reflect upon
your decision and know that it was the right thing to do.
Saturday: The Pampering
Being in a relationship means your weekends are usually spent
together. But now you have a whole Saturday to yourself with no interruptions,
and this thought excites you more than anything.
Set out to making the day about YOU. Pamper yourself. Schedule a
spa & massage session, manicure & pedicure, and get your hair done.
Then take yourself to a nice restaurant, order your favorite
dish with a glass of wine.
Do you hear that? The sound of solitude. It’s not that bad, is
it? Your body is relaxed, and so is your mind. And in this moment, you will
actually feel good about yourself and your decision. You feel content about
where you are in life, and the fact is you don’t need a man to share every
moment with. You love your freedom and you are excited about where your life
will take you next.
Sunday: The Strength
Today you will wake up feeling much better. It’s hard to believe
only six days has gone by, when it feels like forever. You look back at
yourself six days ago, and realize you’re not that sad lonely girl anymore.
Today you are strong. Today you know you can get through anything. And you know
you’re going to be absolutely fine.
You call your family & friends again, to thank them for
being here, and to let them know you’re going to be okay. You feel appreciative
for having them in your life, and more importantly, you know that you are the bestest
friend you will ever have, and you appreciate yourself even more.
Congratulations, you have made it through 7 days of hell. It’s
only going to get better from here.
Note: This
guide (based on a true story) is sent by Numeral Insular. Please share your
love in the comments
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